Forgiveness.

We have all been deeply hurt at one time or another through the words or actions of another. We have also, all done some damage of own towards others. I know for myself that I have hurt and offended others without even being fully aware that I had done so.

When someone hurts us or vice-versa… what do we, as humans beings, normally do? Do we hang onto our anger and resentment, bringing forth thoughts of revenge and rage , or do we decide to embrace forgiveness and move forward? Truly moving forward includes moving on without holding onto grudges or bitterness. This can be a very daunting task that sometimes takes us years to accomplish. I am still learning how to truly forgive. It’s really difficult to allow all your wounds to heal. Especially if the people who have caused those wounds have never given you an apology. Sometimes, even if the other person does apologize, we are wound up so tightly with our anger and our unforgiveness, that we simply refuse to accept an olive branch when offered to us. These pent-up negative feelings can cause horrible damage to our relationships, careers, families and to our own bodies. I believe that many devastating illnesses and conditions that manifest within the body at times stem from harboring bitterness and unforgiveness towards others and for ourselves.

When I have had times of really feeling hurt and angry towards someone for transgressions against me, my angels/guides have said to me “Remember that you are all doing what you can with the knowledge, awareness and energy that you have to work with… and as you change and evolve, through experiences with one another, you grow in your ability to maintain grace and peace together.” They also remind me that I am the true creator of every relationship and situation that I draw to me and am not ever a victim. This divine guidance has helped me to take some of the emotion out of hurtful exchanges and release my judgment of others who have offended me. I still feel the initial sting when someone wounds me, but I have a much easier time letting go of it when I remember these messages from spirit.  With these gifts of knowledge I am able to release my resentment and hurt, allowing me to put things into perspective and have understanding, compassion, and even empathy for those who have offended me. The wounds may remain in my memory, or may have caused permanent changes in my life, but I am free of the grip of bitterness or grudges which can truly hurt me in the long run.

Forgiveness, however, doesn’t mean that you deny the other person’s responsibility or erase the act. What it does is help you to lift yourself out of the negative energy of the wrongful act. When you forgive you set yourself free from being imprisoned by negativity. Being a person who has the ability to forgive allows you to move away from the role of victim. You take back your power and release the offending person’s or the situation’s power it has had in your life. In having this awareness and truly owning your power, you will no longer define yourself or your life by how hurt you have been. You then have the power to define yourself as a being of grace and serenity within.

“He who is devoid of the power to forgive, is devoid of the power to love.”  ~Martin Luther King, Jr.~

Blessings to all!

Karen~

Looking closer at Karma and Reincarnation III, Conclusion.

I promised to talk further about these fascinating topics and to tell about my personal experiences, so, here are some examples. In respect of individuals’ privacy I am not going to mention names or specifics about some of these relations that would lead to identifying them. My son Connor, however, has given me his full permission to talk about our connection to each other in reference to karma and reincarnation. He is a very open soul!

I know that I had karmic ties with a former lover. This was due to the fact that in another soul interaction I deserted him. This caused a buildup of harmful energy between our souls. So, in this life we returned to each other for the purpose of balancing that energy, which was accomplished with his choice to desert me. I understand that this is what was meant to be and gave him complete forgiveness. Now our connection is neutral and balanced. “You reap what you sow.”

Another personal experience of mine was with former student. This student had always held a deep connection to my heart and I felt an enormous sense of obligation to give far more support and encouragement to this particular student than I would in any other teacher – student relationship. My spirit guides showed me that in another life with this person I had been the student and they had been my mentor who had basically taken me in as their own child and supported me for years. So, now I was experiencing the other side of that in order to balance out the positive energy that was exchanged. “What goes around comes around.”

Lastly, I will tell of my relationship to my son Connor. He and I have shared repeated soul connections, or lives, and in each one he dies and leaves me to grieve the loss of my child. In this life it is his soul’s intention to follow through with our parent-child relationship and see it through it’s natural progression;  a child eventually sees their parent die and lives past them. It is my soul’s intention to support him in this and not go through the horrible heartache of losing a child again. Connor just wrapped up a year of chemotherapy treatments and surgeries after developing cancer. Now he is free of the disease and growing stronger every day. I have faith that we are fulfilling our soul contract and balancing out our karma in this life.

In conclusion, I leave you with a few things to think about. We all, every single one of us, picked our parents before our soul was brought back into body. We also sign on to have many other soul connections based on our karmic ties, but our parents are very important as they kind of set the stage for who we are and what our genetic and personality traits are. Think about that and see if it creates a shift in the dynamics of your relationship with your parents and also your children, if you are a parent.

I have enjoyed sharing my experiences with karma and reincarnation and the great comments from you. Maybe we will find ourselves here again, but until then, remember that your true power is in the present moment! Not the past or the future. Make your happiness here and now!! That is the secret!

Love and blessings to all,
Karen

Some of my experiences with Reincarnation.

Here are just a couple of events in my life where I experienced connections to reincarnation:

When I was a little girl, probably around the age of 5, I was watching my mom applying her face cream before bed and I asked her about her breasts. She instantly got very uncomfortable with where I was going in the conversation and turned it around on me asking why I wanted to talk about “boobs,” like it was gross. So, feeling like I was revealing a secret, I told her that I remembered having them when I was a mom and knew that I would be growing them again. I was basically trying to ask her if, because I was her daughter, mine would look like hers when I was a mom again. I knew inside that I had been a mom before and had breasts and would again. She immediately told me that I was being silly and that those ideas were just from a dream that I was remembering. I knew then that she was wrong, but, I could also see how uncomfortable I was making her so I stopped talking. My mom loves me, but didn’t know how to deal with me on subjects like that at the time.

Another time I was playing in my mom and dad’s bedroom in front of the big full length mirror that was attatched to the back of their bedroom door. I was sitting there brushing my hair with my dad’s brush and playing with my mom’s powder, both things that I really wasn’t supposed to do, and I was looking in the mirror at myself. I then felt this over-powering urge to get closer to the mirror and stare into my own eyes intensely. As I began to stare into my own eyes, I saw many different images appear in the mirror around me, and my face changed into other faces several times very quickly. I got scared and looked around the room to see if someone was doing this to me. Just then I felt this overwhelming sense of calm and a voice inside my head told me that it was okay. I went back to the mirror and did it again and once again I saw many different faces transposed over mine. I was fascinated at this point and realized that I always knew that it was still me even when it showed completely different facial features. I continued to play at this repeatedly throughout my childhood until I reached my teens, when it seemed like a weird little kid thing to do, so I stopped.

I know now that my guides were allowing me to see the other shapes that my soul has taken, but it was always me inside. I could tell through my eyes…something about the eyes carries an identifying mark of the soul within.

So, now that I have shared just some of my own strange and embarrassing experiences… do you have something to share? I hope that if you do you will feel confident enough to share them openly like I just did. It is truly freeing!

Warmly,
Karen~